What are you mad at HER for?!?!?!?!?

I have just encountered a new situation which prompted me to post this.

A woman, er, young lady (don't want to give her more credit than she is due), recently got into a vicious argument with a close female relative of mine. She got on the phone and was talking very reckless to my cousin, disrespecting her, and telling her not to call HER man no more when HER man said he didn't have a girlfriend. She followed my relative to her workplace, challenged my relative to a physical altercation, and, unfortunately, things didn't turn out the way she wanted. My relative did her greasy and then called the police and claimed self-defense. She still has her job.

Now, had she confronted her MAN and been mad @ her MAN like she should have been, she wouldn't be missing so many patches of hair.

So, what is it? WHY do women always attack the other woman, knowing 85% of the time she does not know about you? Now, if there was an arrangement involved-like, I got a girl this is only going to be physical, NSA ( no strings attached) , and she found out, ok bitch, we got a problem, because you knew but if she didn't know, WHY are you mad @ the other girl for?

My response is jealousy. "This bitch done seen my man naked, and she done got the same attention I am getting (or used to get). I hate that bitch." This is her boo, her man, and she just found out that she wasn't the only one who she was fucking with. He's been pushing her back to rock wit the next chick. So there is automatic animosity towards her.

Thoughts, comments, stories, testimonials(lmao).... I would love to hear them...

p.s.- don't yall love how I know how to put pics on the posts now? yessssss...

Are you a label ho?

Are you a slave to fashion? Do you only buy name-brand clothing and other items? Then you may be a label ho. My very materialistic friend brought me to post this topic. She is a label ho. She only buys her panties and bras from Vickies (she has b cups, I have to pay xtra for my DDs), she refuses to shop @ stores like a.j. wright and t.j. maxx, marshalls (if they have stores like that in your area) she said their clothes are cheap and cheesy. I found the exact same RocaWear dress there for 20.00 while she paid almost 70.00 for it. Who was smarter? Now don't get me wrong, I love the hottest shit like the next, but I refuse to live beyond my means to get it.

Me, personally, I have outgrown some label stuff and I haven't. I am 5'10, so I CANNOT wear cheap jeans. I have to get them in tall. So I like to shop @ express, other labeled jeans I can find @ my local Marshall's. I like to shop @ those stores not because I am a cheap bitch, but I am a SMART bitch. I would like to look cute and have money left over to keep my lights and gas on. The reason for this is because I have a 5 year old daughter, who I let outshine me on the clothes tip, because she is my offspring and she represents me. I refuse to buy her light up sneakers. I just can't do it. Me and her dad always buy her Nikes or Reeboks. I know, it's kind of contradictory, but I just can't put my child in light up Hannah Montana sneakers with the velcro, I just can't. That's my inner label ho coming out. I confess.

Now, where we go wrong is, buying name brand shit and then being BROKE. That's so great that you bought that Dooney from Macy's on sale for 175. Fab. Now the fact that was your last, and now you have no groceries for 2 weeks, and you have no gas money, and you're at MY door 2 days later, asking me to hold 20.00 so you can get a box of perm and pay for your son's field trip? WITH the Dooney dangling from the crook of your elbow?

See, it's ok to splurge when you have your priorities are in order, when you have taken care of the things in your house and you have some duckets left over.

Now, don't think I'm a cheap bitch, there ARE some few things that I refuse to buy the off-brand kind of:

feminine hygeine products-I need Tampax, Playtex, Always, or Stayfree. No compromise on that. Ever. Degree. Secret. no "Lady's choice". hell no.

hot sauce-there are a lot of imitators out ther but there is niothing like Frank's Hot Sauce, made right here in Buffalo, NY. Won't budge on that either.

What are some things you refuse to compromise on?

Light Skin vs. Dark Skin-WTF is the big deal???

Afternoon,

So, during my daily sweep of websites to check on all the celeb gossip and my fellow blogspot sites on company time (heh heh), I noticed that there is still this "thing" some black people have about complexion.

On mediatakeout.com, they have a story about Omarion only dating light-skinned women. Then on necolebitchie, they got the birthday sex guy (i forgot his name) on 106 and park. He mentioned that the main chick in his video was Brazilian, apparently, he has been receiving flack about not using any "real" black women in the video, sans being "mixed" with something.

So those two articles prompted me to post this:

What is the big fucking deal? Whatever a woman's complexion is, she is still susceptible to the HIV virus. She still may not be able to cook that pepper steak and rice like you like it, and she may not know how to keep a clean home.

So, why are some people so hung up on complexion?

I am a caramel girl, golden brown like the outside of a poundcake,hence the nickname I was given. My hair is thick, when I gots a fresh perm it looks all silky, and I dye it jet black to get that shine, and im rocking a bob cut right now. I never thought I was better because I was lighter, but I have noticed that others thought I was. I remember in school the darker skin kids were called "crispy critters" and "tar babies" and shit like that. I didn't particpate, because fortunately, my mama taught me better. she said that, "Black people get all stuck on complexion and shit when we all still look like niggers to white people." So I never got into all that shit. I was there again later on in my life when my daughter's father revealed to me that he doesn't date dark-skinned chicks. He is a little lighter than me. I asked him why numerous times and I just can't get an answer out of him. But im like shit, u made a statement like that, follow up and answer why?

I have seen lots of beautiful darker-skinned women (Gabrielle Union, Kelly Rowland) and I have seen some not-so-cute light skinned women (Tiny, TI's wifey)

so, what's the big deal? can anyone enlighten me on this?

REASON # 7,682 WHY I DON'T FUCK WITH BITCHES

so burnt up

ok see if you could follow this story -

my cousin t and i have a mutual friend i'll call her dede. dede started woking at my job. another girl, ill call this bitch jessica, cause i hate that name, got hired w/ dede and they was hanging out on breaks or whatever.

jessica and i went to high school together TEN YEARS AGO. we was good friends as freshmen up until she couldnt keep her legs closed and when i got to know her she was an airhead. and i was tired of her borrowing MY clothes.

so since jessica started working here, i don;t speak to her. i don't fuck with her, she a hood-rat and i was never that.

i'm walking into MY job today and here comes dede and hood job jessy. she starts walking all fast. later on today, my cousin called me and told me dede was @ her house. she said that dede wanted to bust hood rat jessy in her mouth. i asked why. she said that she has been giving jessy a ride to and from work and to drop her son off in the morning. this afternoon, dede is @ jessy's house and she sees this book on her table that says do not read. dede opens the book cause something in her told her to open it.

jessy was talking shit about dede.

big shit.

so dede aint fucking with her. now this is where i come in.

earlier today jessy told dede that I, delicious golden brown Poundcake, was a LAME. dammit, if i could get a pic of me and then a pic of this bitch, i would win hands down. and i'm not tooting my horn. im speaking the muthafucking truth. she also said that she didnt want to be seen with me. if she was seen with me, it would be an upgrade for her.

not only that, but didnt we fall out like TEN YEARS AGO?????? why are you still acknowledging me?? i find her irrelevant, cause i got bills to pay and i pays NO bitch any attention. i'm 25 now. so who's the lame?

i told dede i want her number.

i called the bitch she picked up i said "oh word, bitch i'm a lame?"

she hung up very quickly.

i called her, she didnt pick up and i left her a very educational voicemail.

and this is my conclusion as to why i hate bitches. why are you still sweating me after years of us not talking? why do some women feel they HAVE to dog out a woman who is doing them, looking better, and minding they fucking business? why?

gotta love a hater.

My letter to Sandra Rose

WHOA.

This bitch Sandra Rose lost her muthafucking mind. I have just decided that I will NEVER visit her site again. Just click the link and find out what im talking about.

http://sandrarose.com/2009/05/21/does-the-black-woman-know-her-place-in-the-family/


Now read the response I e-mailed to her:


Good Afternoon Sandra,

I am an avid reader of your site. I like most of your posts, not sure about your plot to destroy the Obama's image, or why you choose to hate on June Ambrose so much, but whatever, to each her own. What prompted me to write you today was your post about Black women not knowing their place. I'm not sure what planet you have come from, but most single mothers, like me, start off in a relationship with a man but further along the line they realize they cannot handle the pressure and we handle our business by ourselves. And if more Black men, men period, stepped up to the plate and took care of home instead of chasing every fat ass that walks past them.

See here, Sandra, in the real world, real black women like myself do not need a male in their household to "run things" as you put it. I would be way happier raising my child by myself rather than being submissive and naive. So that they will stay around. You must be like that in your relationship. If you have one. IF you even like men.

I am in a relationship and I am soon to be married. We share both of te responsibilities in the household and since we built this home together, we do it together. I think you have it twisted "Sandra". Black women DO NOT have a lack of respect for themselves because we don't respect Black men. BLACK MEN CAUSED US TO DISRESPECT THEM!

We are the least percentage to get married because we don't take any shit. White women and other races are willing to do and spend ANYTHING to keep their man in their place. You are dead ass wrong and you need to check yourself. Today was the LAST day I visited your site, It's full of fuckery and buffoonery and you sound like an old, out of wack spiteful no dick getting type of woman.

It's women like you who hate on other blacks and their success who make us all look bad. The people you post about don't even know you. You should lift black women up and praise them as being single mothers raising children on their own instead of cutting them down, telling them it was all their fault. No more Sandra Rose for me.

CAKE

When do you think it is time to leave?? PART II

Ok, sooooo, I saw the E! THS Rap Wives, and again, I was floored. This time I was floored about Big Pun's wife. Liza Rios, God bless her, was at the hands of a maniac while the rest of the world unknowingly bopped their heads to her hubby's music. There was footage of her being PISTOL WHIPPED with a semi-automatic. In their home. On the security camera he had put in. This man was so terrible, he lost the respect of his fucking kids. His kids was straight on TV like "we were so happy when he died we got our mom back" WHAT!!!!! What kid is happy that they lost their parent? He must have been a fucking monster. And she's broke?! She doesn't have the rights to his roylties, are you fucking kidding me?! His album Yeeah Baby debuted @ #3 on the Billboard charts according to Wikipedia, certified PLATINUM, and Mrs. Rios claims to have never seen any of that money.......WOW. Him and Fat Joe were so tight, why hasn't he lent a hand? Liza couldnt even afford the lawyer to take the record execs to court, are you serious?

SO I ask again, When is it time to leave????

Who Do You Miss?

Is it me, or is music just not the same anymore? What the fuck is going on? What happened? All we can talk about now is what you got, how may girls you got hanging off ur stuff, where you been... it seems that it doesn't take much for anyone to get a deal nowadays. I compiled my list of who I miss, and I would love for you guys to add to it if you want, or make one up of your own..

I miss..
-Jodeci (crackhead bastards can't get it together)
-Aaliyah(if she was around, Beyonce who? )
-Dru Hill (my post-Jodeci fave male group of all time)
-TLC (RIP Lisa)
-DMX (before the drugs took over his life)
-The original Lil' Kim (pre-prison, plastic surgery)
-Destiny's Child (when it wasn't all about Beyonce)
-Silk!!!
-Monica
-Biggie and Pac
-Patra(is she still alive???)
-The old Jay Z
-Peedi Crack(he was just fine I aint give a damn about his music)
-LUTHER!!!!!!